What is a Twin Soul?

A twin soul, also known as a twin flame or a twin ray is when our souls may decide to split itself to incarnate into more than one body in a particular lifetime in order to speed up learning and growth through experiencing more than one life at a time. This is very rare because in most lifetimes, we will want to incarnate with as much as possible of our soul (a small portion always stays in the Spirit World and is known as our Higher Self) so that we have enough soul energy to have the full capacity to deal with the predetermined issues and lessons that our life will bring.

Our souls are not split in half in terms of the masculine and feminine parts cut down the middle like many romanticized theories of twin souls would like us to believe. We incarnate into male or female but we can change sexes in different lifetimes. There is no split down the middle in terms of soul but only what I would say society has taught us to become on earth – male vs female.

These theories try to make the connection sound like the ultimate, perfect soul connection in order to make people feel unique and special if they have a twin soul, but we are ALL unique and special and it is our own soul that decides if we incarnate into more than one body. It is not a punishment and we are not going through these lifetimes simply to try and reunite and join back together with our twin soul because most often we don’t have one and if we do, those parts join back together in the spirit world between lifetimes anyway.

The purpose of life is for our souls to learn and grow (because souls need growth too) and use these lives as a stage to act out different roles to experience different things – to learn compassion, love, honor, courage, peace, generosity etc. There are baby souls, intermediate souls and advanced souls. We are all working towards advancement so we can truly experience greater capacities for love in our true form, the soul.

We are all whole and even if our soul is split in a particular lifetime, those two or more parts are also whole too. The soul has an amazing ability to make duplication of itself through splitting itself, but again, in most incarnations, our spirit guides try to encourage us to only incarnate in one body in one lifetime so we can put all our energy into focusing on really getting it right in that lifetime.

Many theories about twin souls suggest we need to “perfect” ourselves for reunion and this often mistakenly leads people to criticize themselves for being supposedly inadequate and leads them in the wrong direction. The purpose of all soul connections is to help us see a mirror of ourselves so we can learn to love and accept ourselves unconditionally like we love our soul connections, not berate or abuse ourselves, or become martyrs to other people or connections. Often when people are doing this they are believing that sacrificing themselves is being loving but really it is codependency. It is about learning to use our own free will to Create a better life through utilizing our best qualities.

But holding onto the idea that we aren’t whole without someone else stops us from living our lives in many cases because we put our lives on hold and dedicate too much time on this idea of the connection and we fail to see that we are NOT BOUND to this person like many would have you believe, but they arrived in your life to wake you up to yourself. Holding onto the other person often prevents many from moving on and turning their focus onto self for healing and deeper awakening.

Often twin souls never meet in their physical life because they are not supposed to, but sometimes they do. Many people confuse the term Twin Flames as meaning “the One” but these connections are not romantic in nature because frankly we do not want to have a romance with ourselves! Also, we all have many soul mates who we could potentially form romantic connections with. If we miss one soul mate through our own decisions on the path of life, often there will be another who we may have decided to meet instead.

Many get the term Twin Flames mixed up with what I feel they are truly wanting, which is a Primary soul mate. Most of us do have a Primary Soul Mate who is someone we will have been lovers with in many lifetimes and who is a member of our own Soul family who we are very close to in the spirit world, but sometimes our souls do not decide before a particular lifetime to meet in that lifetime if it doesn’t suit their individual goals for that lifetime. But again, we may have decided to meet another soul mate from our soul family or from a nearby soul family from the Spirit World. ALL OF THESE SOUL CONNECTIONS are just as important as the next though, because they all suit a purpose, the purpose of life, which is to experience and GROW.

If these truths were more well known about Twin Flames, I believe that most people would be fascinated to know they exist, but would not choose to experience one personally. These connections are filled with VERY tough lessons about accepting the deepest and darkest corners of ourselves that rarely we dare to look at let alone acknowledge.

Many other soul connections have very similar qualities to the twin Flame connection and that is because most intense soul connections are also about learning to love self.

In truth, very few people are experiencing a Twin Flame connection, although you might be one who is. However, if you aren’t then the information on this website should still be extremely helpful to you because of the similarities in many many soul connections. In truth, earthly labels about these connections ultimately don’t matter, but for purposes of understanding and so that you can find this website more easily on search engines I have used them here so that the information may be of help to you.

So how will you know if you have met your twin soul? You will just know deep in your heart. And if you don’t know, then just realize that this is probably a very important soul connection to teach you something. It may be a lifetime connection, or very fleeting – it will be up to you to look deep within yourself to see what the lessons you need to learn are.

It’s time to throw out anything you’ve read about twin flames so far as that information is not serving your Highest Good if you are following romanticized and unrealistic theories. They are not the “ultimate” soul mate, I assure you! BUT obviously it is your decision to believe it what you feel resonates with you the most. You don’t have to accept everything I say but maybe you can learn a few things and take what does resonate away with you.

Some of you reading this may feel disappointed with this information, but I would urge you to ask yourself why you may be holding onto the old theories about Twin Flames…Is it because it’s a fantasy and therefore feels more special that accepting reality? Holding onto a fantasy is not being honest with oneself though and only creating more lessons, more karma to learn from if you are missing out on other opportunities because of it.

What is a Soul mate?

There are several types of soul mates and all are very important – Companion soul mates, primary soul mates and karmic soulmates. Again, these are just labels used for understanding but ultimately the name doesn’t matter. Also, all of these connections can include companionship, karma but not all will be your Primary soulmate, only one will be.

Companion Soulmates

These are souls that you agreed to meet with in a particular incarnation to learn lessons with and usually they are positive connections and sometimes you can spend years with this person in your life. Think friends, family and people who come into your life who inspire you or help you achieve a particular goal. These soul mates are often the people who encourage us and who help us to try something new or different and are the people in your life who you feel good about and who assist you in feeling better about yourself.

Primary Soul Mates

This is the soul we have incarnated with in many lifetimes and who is also very close to us in our Soul Family in the Spirit World. We are often lovers with our Primary soul mate in many lifetimes, but sometimes we may be very close friends in other lifetimes. We have learned many lessons and gone through many hardships together and eventually they Create a harmonious bond that they keep returning to in future lifetimes. These connections are very harmonious in most cases and we get together with them as they are very supportive and act as our rock whilst we go through other lessons with other soul mates in our lives.

Again, there can be karma between these souls, but in later lifetimes, all the karma may have been resolved and you can reap the rewards of that by experiencing good karma together.

Karmic Soul Mates

These are souls who meet in order to settle a karmic debt of sorts. Something in a past life happened between them to make them out of balance in some way and they meet again to try and sort it out. Often, not until all the karma is balanced can these souls stop meeting for karmic reasons. Once karma is balanced, they may become Companion Soul Mates or the Primary Soul Mate in future lifetimes.

I do feel that Primary Soul mates may change if one soul graduates quicker than their previous Primary Soul mate when the faster graduate moves into a more advance Soul Family if the other stays back in the less advanced Family.

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